Here it is: Yikes. I feel nervous. but also excited. who knows. I'm prepared for anything.
Dear Aunt B.,
I hope you are doing well. Can you believe how quickly time has passed? My daughter just started high school this morning! I’m proud of her but it’s hard letting her go out in to the world on your own.
I hope all is well with your family. I can’t imagine all the grandchildren and what holidays must be like at your place!
I’m writing because Terry, Scott, and I are involved in a project about mom. I don’t know if you remember but mom had surgery in 1970. Terry said that before mom died mom had begun researching this surgery and had some questions about what had happened. She even got copies of her medical records and sent them to Terry. They were lost during a move.
As I think you know, my mother had a lot of difficulties over her life. She and I did not speak for most of my adult life. For this project, I am not looking to explore or talk about these issues. More, I’m trying to understand what her life was life as a young mother and during those years when she met and married my dad. I’d like to know more about the surgery because my sister and I (scott was too young) have strong memories of her depression and fears after the surgery.
Even if you don’t have information about the surgery itself, I would love to talk to you about “who mom was.” Scott said that she thought of you as a sister and that you two loved each over very much. I would like to include your perspective in mom’s story because I think that balances the other stories. I think it would mean something to hear about who she was from the perspective of you, her closest friend. Despite the problems in my relationship with my mother, I can’t help but laugh when I think of how funny and outspoken she was. She never met a project she couldn’t complete. I also know she was a writer. I don’t have any of her writing. I am wondering if you do?
Mostly I’m looking for stories about her from your perspective.
If you are interested in talking with me I would really appreciate it. Again, I am not looking to talk with you about the problems I had with my mother. I really would just like to gather any information you may have about her early life, who she was, and also the things you loved about her. I am creating a blog and maybe a book. I have been doing video interviews with terry, scott, and the kids. I would be open to interviewing you in any way that would be comfortable. Phone, email, video conference. I could also send questions and you could write back or send a video. If you would be comfortable with recording for the project that would be great, if not that would be fine too.
Let me know what you think. I understand if you don’t want to be a part of the project but I would really love it if you were.